What if someone gets upset when I set a boundary?

Their feelings are real, and you can acknowledge them kindly without giving up the boundary. Discomfort is common when a pattern changes, and it often eases as people adjust.

Do I have to explain my boundaries?

Not always. A short, kind explanation can help in close relationships, but you do not owe anyone a long justification. Clear and brief is usually best.

Is setting boundaries selfish?

No. A healthy boundary protects your ability to love and serve others well over time. Exhausted, resentful people have less to give, and limits help keep your care honest and sustainable.

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